I Hate my Job – Why that’s a Good Thing

I Hate My job

The stats are there without question. There is an unprecedented amount of people out there that literally hate their job, and if that’s where the story ends, it would be a truly sad scenario. Starting every day off with a curse word when the alarm goes off is a far cry from what most people had envisioned their life being.

But that moment of unbound hatred that runs through your mind and more importantly the emotion it carries with it can actually serve as a positive structure.

The renowned motivational speaker Tony Robbins reminds us that emotions are the ultimate resource. “If we get the right emotion, we can get ourselves to do anything,” and there my friends is the road to enacting a change in your job, as well as your life – a fervent emotion.

Think about it.

If a member of your family was threatened, the emotion that would be attached to that would be staggering, and is there any doubt in your mind what-so-ever that you would take immediate action?

As a species, we have been designed to respond in such a way. So, if a client of mine tells me that they hate their job, I say; Good! That’s what it’s going to take to finally invoke an action based response on their part.

Where many of you in this position get stuck with this is your chosen attitude of tolerating your situation and blanketing your emotions for whatever reason. Little to nothing happens when you’re in toleration mode, convincing yourself that any kind of pay and small security is worth sabotaging everything you feel you’re actually capable of, not to mention the boredom and alienation that’s slowly taking you down as an individual.

For the record, and I want to be perfectly clear on this: I understand that many times there’s a middle ground in this scenario, where someone is reacting purely responsively to a situation and doing whatever has to be done irrelevant of their feelings. There is a nobility to that, and I respect it, and get it. But I do not feel it’s always a hopeless situation, and I would urge anyone in that position not to give up on themselves, hard as it may seem.

An act of unwarranted complacence with your employment is nothing less than a personal death march, and it’s going to take a strong emotional state to bust that mindset.

Einstein said that the definition of insanity was doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different outcome. So here’s a response to the potential insanity you feel with your present job.

Five ways on how to move that I hate my job stage from a waste of time and emotion to a “Productive Outcome.”

One) Redirect the Emotion.

Try turning the hate and emotional frustration you have for your present job and literally redirect it to yourself, such as; I hate the fact that I’m unwilling to start taking action to get out of this job. Learn to hate that you’ve done nothing to change your circumstances, then your frustration at work doesn’t center on the job itself, it centers on – this is what I get for doing nothing about it.

Two) Just 20 Minutes.
As I mentioned, the alarm going off in the morning is not exactly a peak experience for most. So what if you got up 20 minutes earlier, just 20 minutes, with the intent of dedicating that small piece of time to spinning and trying to come up with an idea or just a piece of an idea on how to begin to change your circumstances, and you did that every morning? Now you’re starting every day off with at least the possibility of wow, I’m beginning to see a way out of this.

Three) Mini-brainstorming.
Make a commitment to talk to someone at work that is sharing your pain as far as being there, but here’s the trick; don’t make it a bitching session on how things are – ask them what they’d like to be doing if they had their choice. Two things could transpire. You might get an idea from them that you personally haven’t thought of (creative ideas can come from anywhere), or, at the very least, every time you talk to someone you’ll undoubtedly be thinking, and possibly discussing what “you” would like to be doing.

Four) Ask the Right Question.
When you’re seething in the moment caught in the why I hate my job mode, the question that inevitably comes up is, how am I going to get out of this job? Try this question instead: What am I missing in terms of turning a strength that I absolutely know I own and is inherently part of my make-up as an individual into some kind of new job or career?

Five) Reset Your Brain.
Fact: The human brain is incapable of focusing on two different ideas (or emotions) at the same time. As challenging as this may be, when the hate arises, immediately and intently focus on what your dream job would be – if you’ve successfully accomplished that, the hate in that moment has been vanquished, and then as quick as humanly possible, jot down just one idea, any idea on how you could begin to make that job happen – a lot of ideas may add up if you’re completely aggravated all of the time.

All of these suggestions are based on one simple but completely necessary concept to grasp – you’ve got to learn to start changing how you think…tough to pull off, but not impossible.

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  1. Mark
    6 years ago

    I agree with Tony Robbins’s comment that “If we get the right emotion, we can get ourselves to do anything.” Mr. Kot’s five suggestions establish a great roadmap to get where Robbins thinks we can go. This is excellent practical advice one can use. Inspirational.

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